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Are you struggling with a child whose aggression triggers your own trauma responses? In today’s episode on parenting boys peacefully, I’m joined by Tosha Schore, parenting coach and founder of the Parenting Boys Peacefully Project, to talk about how aggression is often fear in disguise.
Tosha will share her mission of creating a more peaceful world “one sweet boy at a time” and offer practical ways to set loving limits without shaming our children. We’ll discuss how our own trauma triggers can interfere with responding calmly, and Tosha introduces the concept of “listening partnerships” to help heal our reactions. As post-traumatic parents, knowing how to step in physically rather than lecture can make all the difference.
If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by your child’s aggressive behavior or struggled to know what to do when talking just makes things worse, this conversation will help you see your child’s behavior—and your own reactions—in a whole new light.
More about Tosha Schore:
Tosha Schore is a parent coach and the founder of Parenting Boys Peacefully, where she is on a mission to create a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time. She is also co-author of “Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges,” which has been translated into five languages. Tosha works with parents to care for themselves, connect with their boys deeply, set limits lovingly, and play wildly, and has been featured on Dr. Shefali’s Parenting Mastery Summit, GoZen’s Anger Transformation and ListenUp! Summits, and has spoken to audiences at the Institute for Child Psychology, the Diversity in Parenting Conference, the Davidson Institute, Lawrence Livermore Laboratory, and on a boatload of podcasts!
Topics covered on Parenting Boys Peacefully:
- What drives Tosha to help parents of boys with challenging behaviors, and how is she connecting her work Parenting Boys Peacefully to creating a more peaceful world?
- Why is aggression often “fear in disguise,” and how does understanding this help us respond with empathy rather than punishment?
- How can setting “loving limits” look different from traditional discipline, and why does moving in physically rather than talking too much work better?
- How can parents who feel triggered by their child’s aggression find ways to stay present without getting overwhelmed?
- Why does trying to talk children out of their feelings often backfire, and what alternatives work better?
- How can parents experiment with different approaches instead of feeling locked into one “right way” of parenting boys peacefully?
- How does society view aggression differently in boys versus girls, and what impact does this have on how we respond?
Connect with Dr. Robyn Koslowitz:
- Website: www.drrobynkoslowitz.com
- Post Traumatic Parenting Guidebook
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- Book: Post-Traumatic Parenting: Break the Cycle and Become the Parent You Always Wanted to Be
Connect with Tosha Schore:
- Website: https://parentingboyspeacefully.com
- Book: Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges
More about Post Traumatic Parenting:
“How can I give my kids a normal childhood, when mine was anything but?” Post-Traumatic Parenting is the podcast for anyone who has ever asked themselves that question. Robyn Koslowitz, Ph.D., clinical psychologist and Post-Traumatic Parent, combines the fields of post-traumatic recovery and growth with our best understanding of how to raise Little Humans. Through interviews with experts in the fields of behavior science, psychology, trauma, and child development, as well as interviews with toy developers, children’s book authors, and anyone else who makes childhood a delight, Dr. Koslowitz explores how trauma impacts our parenting, and how to hack our traumas into superpowers and super-parenting.
Each week, Dr. Koslowitz unpacks how to survive and thrive as a Post-Traumatic Parent. She shares behind-the-scenes insights into the research that underlies what we know about parenting, child development, and trauma recovery. Each podcast provides actionable tips about how to transform our Post-Traumatic Parenting and how to turn our parenting journey into a post-traumatic growth experience. Dr. Koslowitz interviews some of the famous names in these fields, and some experts you’ve never heard of (but should have!). Ready to go from survivor to thriver? Ready to become the parent you’ve always dreamed of being? Join us!
