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Welcome back to another episode of the Post-Traumatic Parenting podcast! In this episode, I am joined by Dr. Brie Turns-Coe, a licensed marriage and family therapist, and together we discuss how to parent the child you have, not the child you were, and how to provide your children with a healthy childhood. Dr. Brie Turns-Coe emphasizes the importance of recognizing the unique needs of each child rather than parenting based on our own childhood experiences or the opposite of them. We also delve into the topic of post-traumatic parenting, how to identify it, including speaking to your inner child and understanding what you needed as a child versus what your child needs now. We touch on the challenges of parenting a child with psychodiversity, the importance of recognizing and meeting our own unmet needs as post-traumatic parents, the harmful effects of spanking, why it is not an effective form of discipline, and more.


More about Dr. Brie Turns-Coe:

Dr. Turns-Coe is a licensed marriage and family therapist and is the director of the MFT program at Arizona Christian University. Brie has spoken at national, international and state conferences. She has also authored 5 books including Parent the Child You Have, Not the Child You Were and I Will Always Love You.


Topics covered on Parent the Child You Have, Not the Child You Were for Post-traumatic Parents:

  • Are you unknowingly parenting based on the opposite or the same methods as your own parents?
  • How can you focus on the unique individuality of your child instead of your own inner child?
  • Healing without placing unnecessary blame on your parents.
  • Strategies you can implement to create a safe and nurturing environment for your child.
  • How can we avoid playing trauma poker and acknowledge each other’s challenges?
  • How to identify and heal your own childhood as a post-traumatic parent?
  • Meeting your children’s needs without forcing your unmet needs onto them.
  • Different parenting styles across generations.
  • Navigating the challenges of post-traumatic parenting in the digital age.
  • Benefits of addressing personal traumas and unresolved issues before starting a family.
  • What are some alternative options for post-traumatic parents to talk to their children about them without passing their own hang-ups?
  • The importance of allowing your body to release trauma through shaking and other physical responses naturally.


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More about Post Traumatic Parenting:

“How can I give my kids a normal childhood, when mine was anything but?” Post-Traumatic Parenting is the podcast for anyone who has ever asked themselves that question. Robyn Koslowitz, Ph.D., clinical psychologist and Post-Traumatic Parent, combines the fields of post-traumatic recovery and growth with our best understanding of how to raise Little Humans. Through interviews with experts in the fields of behavior science, psychology, trauma, and child development, as well as interviews with toy developers, children’s book authors, and anyone else who makes childhood a delight, Dr. Koslowitz explores how trauma impacts our parenting, and how to hack our traumas into superpowers and super-parenting.

Each week, Dr. Koslowitz unpacks how to survive and thrive as a Post-Traumatic Parent. She shares behind-the-scenes insights into the research that underlies what we know about parenting, child development, and trauma recovery. Each podcast provides actionable tips about how to transform our Post-Traumatic Parenting and how to turn our parenting journey into a post-traumatic growth experience. Dr. Koslowitz interviews some of the famous names in these fields, and some experts you’ve never heard of (but should have!). Ready to go from survivor to thriver? Ready to become the parent you’ve always dreamed of being? Join us!