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Tune in to today’s episode to explore the topic of shame in parenting, healing low self-worth, and how to provide children with a shame-free childhood. My special guest, Maggie Nick, founder of Parenting with Perspectacles, shares her inspiring story of breaking the cycle of shame in parenting and together, we discuss the importance of breaking these cycles to ensure our children grow up feeling loved and worthy. We also talk about the transformative power of rejecting shame, fear, intimidation, and punishment as parenting tools and challenge the notion that being a “good parent” depends on having a “good” and obedient child. 

Join us as we explore why is it so important to allow children to release stress and regulate themselves, the negative impact of the fear of being perceived as a bad parent if a child acts disrespectfully, how to set boundaries without shaming or threatening your children to strengthen the parent-child bond, and more.


More about Maggie Nick:

Maggie Nick is a Recovering people pleasing “perfect child” turned Therapist. With her revolutionary insights, she is a Thought Leader in healing low self-worth, shame and parenting. She’s the Founder of Parenting With Perspectacles, a parenting AND reparenting framework to help parents of toddlers to teens find their way through the hardest, most triggering moments of parenting with the tools and insight to help both their child AND their inner child feel seen and loved.

She shares relatable insights as a Cycle Breaking Mom, childhood trauma survivor and Therapist, helping people worldwide to heal, release the shame of feeling not good enough + learn to believe they deserve love without conditions. Maggie is also the Co-Founder of The Estrangement Project, which helps those navigating estrangement and healing The Mother Wound.


Topics covered on Breaking the Cycle of Shame in Parenting:

  • Maggie’s journey as a cycle breaker and her realization that trauma and shame in parenting were the root causes of her own struggles.
  • Breaking cycles of trauma and shame in parenting to ensure children grow up feeling loved and worthy.
  • Exploration of the deep sadness, despair, and jealousy that can arise when providing a different, more loving parenting experience to your own children.
  • Rejecting the idea of using shame, fear, intimidation, and punishment to enforce compliance and obedience in children.
  • Being a “good parent” is not solely determined by having a “good” and respectful child.
  • Why do you need to allow children to release stress and regulate themselves through resistance and pushing back?
  • Exploring the negative impact of shame and the fear of being perceived as a bad parent if a child acts disrespectfully.
  • Estrangement from a parent is a serious decision that results from severe mistreatment. People may judge estrangement because it challenges their own beliefs about maintaining relationships with their parents.
  • Challenging negative self-beliefs and recognizing their origins can promote healing and prevent passing on harmful patterns to children.
  • Why is it important to hold space for children to express their negative emotions and allow them to release and clear any underlying issues?
  • Children who hold everything in and pretend to be fine may experience chronic dysregulation and can benefit from emotional releases.
  • Parents may get triggered by their child’s behavior due to their own past traumas, and it’s important to recognize and heal those triggers.
  • Trusting the body’s response and understanding that there’s always a reason behind reactions can help parents navigate challenging situations with their children.
  • Reactions to children are often not about the child but about the parent’s past experiences, and it’s important to separate the two.


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More about Post Traumatic Parenting:

“How can I give my kids a normal childhood, when mine was anything but?” Post-Traumatic Parenting is the podcast for anyone who has ever asked themselves that question. Robyn Koslowitz, Ph.D., clinical psychologist and Post-Traumatic Parent, combines the fields of post-traumatic recovery and growth with our best understanding of how to raise Little Humans. Through interviews with experts in the fields of behavior science, psychology, trauma, and child development, as well as interviews with toy developers, children’s book authors, and anyone else who makes childhood a delight, Dr. Koslowitz explores how trauma impacts our parenting, and how to hack our traumas into superpowers and super-parenting.

Each week, Dr. Koslowitz unpacks how to survive and thrive as a Post-Traumatic Parent. She shares behind-the-scenes insights into the research that underlies what we know about parenting, child development, and trauma recovery. Each podcast provides actionable tips about how to transform our Post-Traumatic Parenting and how to turn our parenting journey into a post-traumatic growth experience. Dr. Koslowitz interviews some of the famous names in these fields, and some experts you’ve never heard of (but should have!). Ready to go from survivor to thriver? Ready to become the parent you’ve always dreamed of being? Join us!